This post is for the If I Had A Son Series.
I recently came across statistics that revealed that 2 out of every 3 men view porn online at least once a week.
One out of 3 believe they are addicted.
Those are sobering statistics. Considering that I have 3 daughters, and one day will have 3 sons-in-law, that means statistically 1 or 2 of my daughters will have to deal with these ugly monsters called pornography and/or porn addiction.
Men are 543% more likely to look at porn than females.
Even Christian homes are feeling the effects of porn. You can view an article at the Huffington Post here.
I understand from previous research that the male mind thinks a sexual thought every 7 seconds. I remember one book in which the author’s wife was utterly appalled when she read the draft of his book! I’m appalled too, but it’s important to understand that men really are wired differently that women. That’s why it’s vitally important for women to consider their own conduct as well.
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust
after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Matthew 5:28KJV
I’ve heard talk of men “bouncing” their eyes in order to keep their minds pure. Growing up hearing from men the old saying, “You can look but you can’t touch,” and seeing filthy calendars occasionally lining garage walls and workshops, I find the idea that a man would actually honor God, his wife, and his marriage by bouncing his eyes quite impressive!
I wish that kind of God-fearing character for my future sons.
There are so many books, videos, and resources available today that no man (or woman, for that matter) needs to fight the battle alone.
Here are a list of books I have read at least a portion of:
Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker
Every Young Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker
Clean by Dr. Doug Weiss
Not Even A Hint by Joshua Harris
And for the women:
Every Woman’s Battle
Every Young Woman’s Battle
Dr Doug Weiss resources:
DrDougWeiss.com
DrDougWeiss.org
Dr Weiss On YouTube
Our church participates with Celebrate Recovery.
And that’s just for starters. There are many more resources available. Search out God-honoring material for lasting purity.
Check out CovenantEyes.com for computer and device protection or sign up through Dr Doug’s website here.
And here is a excerpt from an episode of the Bates Family’s Bringing Up Bates on UPTV where they visit the ocean. Note Nathan Bates as he says, “Our parents always try to encourage us to guard your eyes, someday your wife will appreciate it.”
So true, so true.
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